Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Irony in Marriage and Unfaithfulness

This is both sad and amazing. Amazing because of the coincidence, and sad because of the wrong lessons drawn from it.

Sana Klaric, 27, and husband Adnan, 32, from Zenica, poured out their hearts to each other over their marriage troubles, and both felt they had found their real soul mate.

The couple met on an online chat forum while he was at work and she in an internet cafe, and started chatting under the names Sweetie and Prince of Joy.

They eventually decided to meet up - but there was no happy ending when they realised what had happened.

Now they are both filing for divorce - with each accusing the other of being unfaithful.

Sana said: "I thought I had found the love of my life. The way this Prince of Joy spoke to me, the things he wrote, the tenderness in every expression was something I had never had in my marriage.
Am I the only one who thinks they are drawing EXACTLY the wrong conclusions from this? The problem: A marriage where you think you married the wrong person. Then you discover EXACTLY the kind of person you are looking for, and it turns out to be your spouse! Shouldn't the next logical thought be, "Hey, maybe this IS the person for me, and I need to do what it takes to make this marriage work."? After all, if you can fall in love twice with the same person, it proves they are the kind of person you are made for.

But maybe this is merely the rants of a single romantic who has no idea how relationships actually work.


"Nick" said...

I think you are right. They must have some really deep seated issues that are causing the breakup. They seem to have been handed a gift.

Granted, I can see how you would be mad... after all, from the husbands POV the wife was looking for another man and was willing go meet him (which isn't just going to end in coffee...). Same from the wife's POV. I just don't think they should be so mad that they kill the relationship.

shadowmom1 said...

When I first heard this story this morning, I had exactly the same thought. "How wonderful that the perfect person was right under their noses!" It is very sad that they have seen it from the opposite perspective, especially since they are equally guilty of looking elsewhere for comfort.
Perhaps, since this story has been made so public, someone may come into their lives to help them work it out. I hope so.

Sean said...

i tend to agree with what has been said here with one significant but. Most people on the internet know how to talk and say things that make them sound better than they are. There is a good chance that the rhetoric these two were putting out in the chat room was less than honest about the entire situation they were in. Consequently when they met they not only knew that the other was "cheating" but they were also lying in the chat room - and about each other at that. Add to that the resentment both of them already felt toward each other and I can totally understand the reaction.

It sounds like a relationship that could be saved with some good couples counseling, but if they are not going to get it, then divorce is - unfortunately - the best option.

Anonymous said...

People this stupid don't deserve to be married.

Anonymous said...

Here's hoping they don't have kids.

shadowmom1 said...

Divorce is not God's option, reconciliation is.

The Heart said...

Nomad, your singleness is not inhibiting your common sense! I am married and I totally agree with your assessment.